Coaching for Couples

You Can Renew the Harmony and Spark in Your Relationship.

You Just Need To Learn How.

We all long for meaningful and fulfilling relationships with our partners. But this is often hard to achieve.

Many things turn up to challenge the strength of connection and partnership between the two of you: upheavals in the world, the pressures of raising and supporting a family, the list goes on.

You probably didn't expect to feel so lonely next to the person you hoped would be your closest companion and playmate.

Frustration, confusion, and a sense of helplessness can set in, making things even harder to handle.

If the tensions are also affecting your intimacy, that can add feelings of desponency, even hopelessness.

The lack of peace in your home can sap your energy and undermine your concentration, distracting you from getting on with other aspects of your life.

Harmony in a relationship affects more than just the couple. The knock-on effects for children, family and friends can also be concerning.

If your shared goal is to stay together, and love and affection are still in the mix despite your frustrations, then it is possible to get your relationship back on track.

Put Your Relationship Worries Behind You

Most couples shy away from tackling lingering issues because we don't know how to go about it productively. The worry that we'll make things worse can put us off from trying anything at all.

If only you knew how to hear your partner's secret thoughts! If only you could decipher what's playing into how they're feeling and acting!

If only you could make sense of the conflicting feelings in your own heart.

That would give you something tangible to work with, and help you move beyond feeling paralysed and helpless.

If you are to re-build your heartfelt connection, it's essential that you dare to reveal to your partner what's been lying buried in your heart, and find a way to hear them better, too.

Couple coaching with Margarita can help you achieve this, in a safe and non-judgemental environment.

Once you've achieved a new level of mutual understanding, you can then begin to develop your relationship skills in the areas where you need it most.

I'm here to help you get there.

Margarita Steinberg

Wellbeing and Relationship Coach

I will also continue to support you while you put these newfound skills into practice and for as long as you need.

Ultimately, my goal as your coach is to help you re-discover the joy, the fun, the play that was so thrilling when you were first getting to know each other!

To find out if I'm the right relationship coach for you, and to ask any question you might have, book a no-obligation discovery call with me today.

BOOK A CALL

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The effect has been astonishing

It VERY quickly became clear that Margarita has a unique gift for tapping into a part of both of us as individuals that neither of us had known or even cared to know. Then she introduced those parts of us to each other. Sounds simple (and a little bizarre, I know) but the effect has been astonishing.

I honestly can't imagine a better investment in our family's future. Our 14-year old son said the other day, "Aw, you guys are so cute!" and I realised that it's been a long time since he'd seen us that way.

Margaret P. - Wife and Mother

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The effect has been astonishing

"It VERY quickly became clear that Margarita has a unique gift for tapping into a part of both of us as individuals that neither of us had known or even cared to know. Then she introduced those parts of us to each other. Sounds simple (and a little bizarre, I know) but the effect has been astonishing.

I honestly can't imagine a better investment in our family's future. Our 14-year old son said the other day, "Aw, you guys are so cute!" and I realised that it's been a long time since he'd seen us that way."

Margaret P. - Wife and Mother

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Couples Coaching Programme

"Intimacy By Heart"

The full ByHeart programme for couples spans 9 sessions and includes the following:

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Phase 1. Resolve conflicts (3 - 4 sessions) ▼

This phase consists of two stages:

Individual session with each of you separately
I will meet with each of you separately, to understand your specific perspective on what's been happening and to confirm that you both are genuinely willing to re-build your relationship.With each of you, I will watch, listen to what you are saying, to the echoes and implications of what you are saying. I will also listen out for what you may not be putting into words, to help me gain a deeper understanding of what you are saying. These two initial meetings (one with each of you) allow us to build rapport and trust. This trust will allow us to tackle thorny issues together later with greater comfort.
Joint appointments focused on break-out sessions
During this phase, I discuss with each of you in turn topics that have been causing friction between you, and help you untangle what got these so complicated. I will guide these individual explorations, with the other partner getting the benefit of observing the process and hearing the disclosures, without being put on the spot to provide a response. At the end of each break-out session, we bring together the experience of the person in the 'hot seat' and their partner's experience witnessing the process. This will begin to create a deeper intimacy, as you allow each other to experience what has been hidden, or overlooked, before. I have found that people frequently learn about each other's inner lives during these conversations at a depth that they had never achieved before.

Results of Phase 1

Each of you feels fully heard and understood
You are clear on what has been causing tensions and flare-ups
You have found resolution for at least some of the hottest conflicts
You have a greater sense of a joint adventure of discovery, and a more optimistic outlook for what lies ahead

Phase 2. Foster a conversation (2 - 3 sessions) ▼

This phase lays the foundations for the creation of your new relaxed, mutually supportive, playful and enjoyable relationship:

Integrate the conversation
In this phase, we will continue using the break-out session pattern, with the difference that the 'witnessing' partner is increasingly actively involved in the discussion. By this stage, you will have the benefit of having learnt from the earlier sessions. Your new conversations will already be based on the insights you've gained in Phase 1.
Enhance your relating skills
We will establish your individual level of relating skills and design a programme to help each of you expand your relating vocabulary. This will ensure that your interactions at home and at play will benefit from your newly enhanced skills and avoid the pitfalls that previously caused tensions.

Results of Phase 2

You feel heard and understood by your partner
You are able to give your partner the experience of feeling heard and understood
You trust that difficult disclosures will be received in a supportive manner, and feel excited at the growing sense of intimacy between you

Phase 3. Create more joy (3 - 4 sessions) ▼

Phase 2 has helped you feel more in touch with each other. Now is the time to build even more positive feelings and help you embrace practices that create excitement and enjoyment, for yourself and for your partner, for today and for the future.

Boost the fun element
I design for you a tailored programme of specific tasks that you undertake, together and as individuals, between the coaching sessions. The aim of this programme is to inject pockets of fun and playfulness, and bolster your overall sense of building an enjoyable partnership.
Cherish the attraction
We explore to re-discover what initially attracted you to each other, and what you find particularly appealing and important now. You will experience being able to express cherishing and to be feel cherished, in ways that will re-capture the excitement of your early romance, and create new layers of intimacy.

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The sea-change in our relationship is so profound

The work we've done with you is incredibly valuable. [Even while other things are proving challenging], all of the work that M and I have done with you seems to remain as strong and effective with us as ever.

Not sure how I can thank you enough.

Jared Louche - Father, Teacher, Artist

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The sea-change in our relationship is so profound

"The work we've done with you is incredibly valuable. [Even while other things are proving challenging], all of the work that M and I have done with you seems to remain as strong and effective with us as ever.

Not sure how I can thank you enough."

Jared Louche - Father, Teacher, Artist

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A Bright Future for Your Relationship

Imagine the day when you feel secure in your partner's love and affection.

The day when you've grown the courage to share what's in your heart.

The day when you can enjoy each other's company and your shared intimacy again.

When you know how to create moments of joy, flirtation and play.

And maybe, that day, you will feel as though you're falling in love all over again - even after all these years

To find out how ByHeart coaching can help you achieve this, book a no-obligation call with Margarita today

BOOK A CALL

You may be wondering

The range of approaches that a professional can choose from goes far beyond what most people are even aware exists.

My clients experience surprising relevations at every session. They leave each session equipped with a new perspective that moves them beyond the territory where they'd been stuck. Plus, I work with them to devise clear action steps that foster new levels of enjoyment and collaboration in their partnerships.

Talking to a professional who guarantees confidentiality and a safe space is likely to feel less awkward than talking to familly or friends who are too close and too involved to make space for your feelings and experiences - or to provide constructive guidance. Especially on such personal matters.

I've spoken with many people in a similar situation to yours, so you can be confident and assured of a sympathetic ear. During our time, I'm entirely devoted to listening to you and helping you.

If you're reading this, there is still enough affection in you, and enough determination to find a way back to each other.

All of your feelings will have space to get expressed and explored. I've seen annoyance and frustration get replaced by curiousity and affection. Perhaps that's what you'd like to happen for you.

It is understandable if your partner is still hopeful that things would work out by themselves.

You can begin by working with me 1-to-1. It's surprising how much new understanding about your partnership can come to light by working with a Psychosynthesis coach!

It is up to you to know how long you're comfortable to keep hoping your partnership will find its feet again unaided.

I just want you to know that things could absolutely get better - and quickly!

The last few times when you hoped tensions in your partnership would settle by themselves, how long did it last? Perhaps it's time to try a new angle? ByHeart Coaching could be the answer you've been looking for.

The range of approaches that a professional can choose from goes far beyond what most people are even aware exists.

My clients experience surprising relevations at every session. They leave each session equipped with a new perspective that moves them beyond the territory where they'd been stuck. Plus, I work with them to devise clear action steps that foster new levels of enjoyment and collaboration in their partnerships.

Talking to a professional who guarantees confidentiality and a safe space is likely to feel less awkward than talking to familly or friends who are too close and too involved to make space for your feelings and experiences - or to provide constructive guidance. Especially on such personal matters.

I've spoken with many people in a similar situation to yours, so you can be confident and assured of a sympathetic ear. During our time, I'm entirely devoted to listening to you and helping you.

If you're reading this, there is still enough affection in you, and enough determination to find a way back to each other.

All of your feelings will have space to get expressed and explored. I've seen annoyance and frustration get replaced by curiousity and affection. Perhaps that's what you'd like to happen for you.

It is understandable if your partner is still hopeful that things would work out by themselves.

You can begin by working with me 1-to-1. It's surprising how much new understanding about your partnership can come to light by working with a Psychosynthesis coach!

It is up to you to know how long you're comfortable to keep hoping your partnership will find its feet again unaided.

I just want you to know that things could absolutely get better - and quickly!

The last few times when you hoped tensions in your partnership would settle by themselves, how long did it last? Perhaps it's time to try a new angle? ByHeart Coaching could be the answer you've been looking for.

Do you need help with a relationship?

Book a no-obligation call with Margarita today.

BOOK A CALL