Couples Saver
Get your relationship back on track with my 3-months coaching program, using a unique methodology based on Psychosynthesis principles, that works individually for every couple.
You are here because

  • You worry that your relationship is in danger of falling apart

  • You feel that your partner doesn't understand you

  • You struggle with negative emotions, such as anger, guilt, anxiety and fear

  • You feel a sense of hopelessness about being able to make things better

The good news
Lots of couples run into problems at some point. Many of my clients feel the same way as you when they first come to me.

The good news is that these problems can be fixed, and there is a very clear path to sorting them out.
ByHeart Intimacy for Couples Programme™
I help couples to re-connect and re-discover the joy in each other's company, using Psychosynthesis methodology in a structured 9-session programme.
Reveal the triggers that have been tearing you apart
Re-establish common ground you share
Discover your partner's inner life and help them discover yours
Learn to play happily with your partner again
Imagine the day when you

  • feel secure in your partner's love and affection

  • relax and enjoy each other's company, feel at ease with each other

  • find the courage to speak your truth

  • value yourself

  • appreciate your partner more

  • create the context for playful, joyous moments

  • re-discover what you find attractive about each other

  • feel as though you're falling in love all over again
Imagine the day when you

  • feel secure in your partner's love and affection

  • relax and enjoy each other's company, feel at ease with each other

  • find the courage to speak your truth

  • value yourself

  • appreciate your partner more

  • create the context for playful, joyous moments

  • re-discover what you find attractive about each other

  • feel as though you're falling in love all over again

MEET THE COACH
Hi, I'm Margarita Steinberg


I am a qualified Leadership Coach with a specialism in Psychosynthesis psychology. I help couples put their relationship back on track, and create even stronger intimacy and a sense of partnership. I help you fall in love with each other again.

I practiced these skills first in my own life. I am now in a happy long-term relationship where I feel cherished. I wasn't born with superior relationship savvy, though. Instead, I spent my childhood in a family torn by conflict, and it took me many years as an adult to get to the essence of what makes for fulfilling harmonious (and sexy!) relationships.

Nor had I set out to work with couples - this work came about through people asking for my help. The defining moment that steered me towards working with couples came when a rock star of my acquaintance phoned me up and said "Help, my marriage is in trouble."

I did not expect to find myself coaching couples. This work came to find me. The first few people who came asking me to help them with their relationship were in crisis. Working with them, I came to realise how powerfully Psychosynthesis work could help couples re-connect, and overcome their barriers.

Over time, I have designed my own programme, ByHeart Intimacy for Couples Programme™, which allows couples to work through their problems and achieve a new harmony and intimacy in record time.
WHY CHOOSE ByHeart Intimacy for Couples Programme™

My approach provides a safe environment where you can learn to speak more honestly with your partner.

My core stance is non-judgemental and my input is about assisting each of you to develop listening and communication skills with your partner.
WHY CHOOSE ByHeart Intimacy for Couples Programme™

My approach provides a safe environment where you can learn to speak more honestly with your partner.

My core stance is non-judgemental and my input is about assisting each of you to develop listening and communication skills with your partner.
The system is designed to give you maximum progress in the shortest time
Duration of programme: 3 months
Duration of each session: 60-90 minutes

✔ All sessions take place at my clinic in central Brighton

✔ You will feel the progress you're making as a partnership after each meeting

✔ Every couple is unique, so every stage and every conversation will be tailored to your exact situation
ByHeart Intimacy for Couples Programme™
4 simple steps
from Breaking Point to Back in the Game
Step 1
Forge an alliance
Get support to affirm your commitment to each other, make sure your goals are aligned and commit to create a renewed intimacy together
Step 2
Step out from hiding
Recognise what has been causing misunderstandings, resolve tensions, and get to know each other at a deeper level than ever before
Step 3
Embrace exchange
Find courage to exchange new understandings, so your conversations shift from 'same old' to fresh and exciting
Step 4
Take hands and dance
Learn new relating skills so you can relish your interactions and your 'dance' together stays thrilling
Overview of the programme
Phase 1. Resolve conflicts (3 - 4 sessions) ▼
This phase consists of two stages:

  1. Individual session with each of you separatelyI will meet with each of you separately, to understand your specific perspective on what's been happening and to confirm that you both are genuinely willing to re-build your relationship.With each of you, I will watch, listen to what you are saying, to the echoes and implications of what you are saying. I will also listen out for what you may not be putting into words, to help me gain a deeper understanding of what you are saying. These two initial meetings (one with each of you) allow us to build rapport and trust. This trust will allow us to tackle thorny issues together later with greater comfort.

  2. Joint appointments focused on break-out sessionsDuring this phase, I discuss with each of you in turn topics that have been causing friction between you, and help you untangle what got these so complicated. I will guide these individual explorations, with the other partner getting the benefit of observing the process and hearing the disclosures, without being put on the spot to provide a response. At the end of each break-out session, we bring together the experience of the person in the 'hot seat' and their partner's experience witnessing the process. This will begin to create a deeper intimacy, as you allow each other to experience what has been hidden, or overlooked, before. I have found that people frequently learn about each other's inner lives during these conversations at a depth that they had never achieved before.

Results of Phase 1

  1. Each of you feel fully heard and understood

  2. You are clear on what has been causing tensions and flare-ups

  3. You have found resolution for at least some of the hottest conflicts

  4. You have a greater sense of a joint adventure of discovery, and a more optimistic outlook on what lies ahead
Phase 2. Foster a conversation (2 - 3 sessions) ▼
This phase lays the foundations for the creation of your new relaxed, mutually supportive, playful and enjoyable relationship:

  1. Integrate the conversationIn this phase, we will continue using the break-out session pattern, with the difference that the 'witnessing' partner is increasingly actively involved in the discussion. By this stage, you will have the benefit of having learnt from the earlier sessions. Your new conversations will already be based on the insights you've gained in Phase 1.

  2. Enhance your relating skillsWe will establish your individual level of relating skills and design a programme to help each of you expand your relating vocabulary. This will ensure that your interactions at home and at play will benefit from your newly enhanced skills and avoid the pitfalls that previously caused tensions.

Results of Phase 2

  1. You feel heard and understood by your partner

  2. You are able to give your partner the experience of feeling heard and understood

  3. You trust that difficult disclosures will be received in a supportive manner, and feel excited at the growing sense of intimacy between you
Phase 3. Create more joy (3 - 4 sessions) ▼
Phase 2 has helped you feel more in touch with each other. Now is the time to build even more positive feelings and help you embrace practices that create excitement and enjoyment, for yourself and for your partner, for today and for the future.

  1. Boost the fun elementI design for you a tailored programme of specific tasks that you undertake, together and as individuals, between the coaching sessions. The aim of this programme is to inject pockets of fun and playfulness, and bolster your overall sense of building an enjoyable partnership.

  2. Cherish the attractionWe explore to re-discover what initially attracted you to each other, and what you find particularly appealing and important now. You will experience being able to express cherishing and to be feel cherished, in ways that will re-capture the excitement of your early romance, and create new layers of intimacy.
Couples I've helped - in their own words
"The sea-change in our relationship is so profound"

"The work we've done with you is incredibly valuable. [Even while other things are proving challenging], all of the work that M and I have done with you seems to remain as strong and effective with us as ever.

Not sure how I can thank you enough."

Jared Hendrickson
Father, Artist, Teacher, Rock Star
Read the full testimonial... ▼
"I came to Margarita as a skeptic. As is the case for most of us, for much of my life I've been embroiled in behavioral issues that seemed both repetitive and deeply entrenched, a loop unchanged, and more importantly, unchangeable.

I'd been through Freudian, Jungian and other approaches to therapy on and off for years, and though I became adept at telling "my story", I never actually gained any real insight into why I did the things I did or how to change them, never found solace with any of the talk therapy approaches I'd tried. As one therapist said at one point, I was being behaved by my emotions, and though I knew I wanted to find new coping mechanisms, I was at a loss as to know how I could move forward.

Without encumbering my recommendation with details of how I came under Margarita's wing, suffice it to say that because of issues that my wife and I have been dealing with in our marriage, I contacted Margarita in search of help. I wasn't convinced that there was an answer in therapy that I hadn't heard already, but I went.

From the start, Margarita's approach was clearly different. Though the exact alchemy of how she does what she does is hard to explain, the results have been astounding. Her approach is profoundly compassionate, sometimes engaging in role play, sometimes asking me to cast back to deeper memories than I knew existed. She looks at each issue both directly and indirectly, illuminating a path with both insightful ease and grace. She's clearly extremely experienced yet she carries that knowledge lightly, with a sense of wonder and pleasure. She clearly enjoys the process of discovery as much as my wife and I do and each session is challenging yet exciting, filled with utterly unexpected treasures knotted up inside the tangled nests of our lives.

Perhaps most crucially though, throughout every session and at every turn, I felt seen, understood and respected. Margarita challenged me to push further, but I was held in a safe place where it was possible to explore some of the thorniest issues of my past. Without that sense of unequivocal safety, there's no chance that one would ever want to journey very far.

My wife and I walk out of Margarita's sessions happier, more patient and somehow more balanced, able to work through our issues together more effectively, but most importantly, compassionately. We see each other anew, and after twenty years that's a challenge!

I described Margarita's approach to therapy as alchemical. There are official names for each approach and technique she uses, but the magic of it all is that you never see that because you're too involved in the journey, a journey that's empowering and transformational and incredibly effective.

There's much work to do, but I don't feel like I'm being "behaved by my emotions" any more which is amazing! I can actually see the path for the first time in my life, and that only came from working with Margarita who has helped make transformational change in my (our) life. I can not recommend her highly enough."
"The effect has been astonishing"

"It VERY quickly became clear that you have a unique gift for tapping into a part of both of us as individuals that neither of us had known or even cared to know. Then you introduced those parts of us to each other. Sounds simple (and a little bizarre, I know) but the effect has been astonishing.

I honestly can't imagine a better investment in our family's future. Our 14-year old son said the other day, "Aw, you guys are so cute!" and I realised that it's been a long time since he'd seen us that way."

Margaret P - Wife and Mother
Read the full testimonial... ▼
"At first my husband and I came to you because we were in crisis. There were danger signs I'd ignored or minimised over several months, but I had a feeling that this wasn't going to end well. When it inevitably blew up, we did what we'd done at other times of crisis in our 20-year marriage: we asked for help. In the past, the choice was stark: call a counsellor or call a lawyer. This time wasn't that kind of acute but it was one of a long string of mini-crises that were, frankly, wearing me down.

Coming to you was a leap into the unknown, because I wasn't at all familiar with your style or method of coaching. But it VERY quickly became clear that you have a unique gift for tapping into a part of both of us as individuals that neither of us had known or even cared to know. Then you introduced those parts of us to each other. Sounds simple (and a little bizarre, I know) but the effect has been astonishing.

The most prominent symptom of our marital difficulties has always been a tendency to snap at each other, to assume the worst motive in the other during any kind of conflict, large or small (especially small!). But now, having met (and cared for) the vulnerable versions of each other, we both find ourselves stopping before snapping, asking ourselves if it's really likely that the other is being THAT much of an asshole for no reason. Again, it sounds simple, but the effect – day-on-day – is a lightening of the whole household. And with each swept-aside assumption reinforcing the narrative that we've been seeing – projecting – the worst in each other for no damned reason whatsoever, it gets easier to see it clearly the next time.

It's been some months now since we had our last top-up session and, frankly, there's still work to be done. As with any important change which takes practice, once you start skipping a few opportunities to exercise your new skills, the old habits start creeping back in… But I never thought we could be on the other side of the issue: I had honestly thought we'd go on in casual misery for the rest of our lives, loving each other but not liking, trusting or respecting each other very much. Because of our sessions with you, I know now that the second half of that sentence is just a matter of practice and constructive work. Even knowing that lightens the load.

I think we had six sessions with you (astonishingly!) and we'll need a few more in the future, but I honestly can't imagine a better investment in our family's future. Our 14-year old son said the other day, "Aw, you guys are so cute!" and I realised that it's been a long time since he'd seen us that way."
ByHeart Intimacy for Couples Programme™ is only £900 for a limited time.
This programme is me working with you face-to-face, entirely focused on your exact situation, with the benefit of a coherent structured process.

It is you getting help with resolving the things YOU have been finding difficult to shift and ushering in the things YOU have been longing to make a reality.

This is not a self-help course with generalised exercises, it is entirely tailored to your needs and wishes.
ByHeart Intimacy for Couples Programme™ is only £900 for a limited time.
This programme is me working with you face-to-face, entirely focused on your exact situation, with the benefit of a coherent structured process.

It is you getting help with resolving the things YOU have been finding difficult to shift and ushering in the things YOU have been longing to make a reality.

This is not a self-help course with generalised exercises, it is entirely tailored to your needs and wishes.
Will my investment in this coaching programme be worth it for me?
If I were to charge you £1,000 for the programme, and coaching with me helped you to bring fresh excitement back into your relationship for the next 10 years, the cost would be £2 per week for your future happiness.

Will your investment in this coaching programme be worth it for you? Only you can really answer that question for you.

For the clients who have re-created a marriage and a family with my help, the answer is 'Yes, it was worth every minute!'

I want you to stop reading for just one moment to ask yourself:

"What is keeping this relationship worth to me, and what would be the cost (not to mention the distress and upheaval) of a break-up?"

Chances are, that amount will more than justify your investment in coaching.
Bonuses
Extras you get by signing up to the ByHeart Intimacy for Couples Programme™:
Relationship 'health check-up' appointments
I will arrange to speak with you every 6 months after the end of your coaching with me
Is this right for me?
This programme is not suitable if:

  1. Either one of you has both feet pointing out of the door, and is not willing to invest energy and effort into improving the relationship.

  2. Either one of you is not open to the possibility of new discoveries and is more committed to their interpretation of what has been happening than to sustaining and reviving the essence of the relationship.
ByHeart Intimacy for Couples Programme™ is £1,000 £900
9 in-person coaching sessions with the originator of the programme Margarita Steinberg
Duration of programme: 3 months

Duration of each session: 60-90 minutes
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ByHeart Coaching
Margarita Steinberg
Brighton, East Sussex
United Kingdom

+44(0)7717315078 byheart.coaching@gmail.com