Interview
with Margarita
Margarita Steinberg on her approach to
Leadership Coaching for people in business
Interview
with Margarita
Margarita Steinberg on her approach to
Leadership Coaching for people in business
Interview
with Margarita
Margarita Steinberg on her approach to
Leadership Coaching for people in business
Leadership Coaching - the ByHeart way
INTERVIEW WITH MARGARITA
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1. How is this different from everything else I've seen?
What I do is a service for people in business, not a business service. Its benefits show in how you feel every day, and only then in numbers in a quarterly report.

It is about how you can bring your personal best to work (and how you can resolve any personal obstacles, so you don't have to bring them along to work with you, as well).

My clients discover how important and powerful their own personality, their essence is to the success of their business - and, no less important, their life in business.

It's no surprise that, for a lot of people, being involved in business can feel like a separate thing from being a person. For some, that alienation starts to take a toll. The paradox here is that harnessing who you are can be immensely powerful for making your business go in the direction that it is supposed to go.

This coaching work engages with you as a person and is less about tactics (you've got that covered already). It's about what's deep in your heart, what you know in your bones, and how that can be harnessed to create your unique leadership style that is authentic and effective.
2. Why is this for me?
Stress
Stress is a big drainer for business leaders. Get help to resolve inner frictions, so you can really power ahead.
Support
Business can be a lonely environment.

As your coach, I become your dedicated confidential ally, with whom you can find answers to your fears, your doubts, your blocks – all the things that are not to be shared with your colleagues.
Leadership
Communication skills are famous for being critical to leadership, yet they are rarely taught properly in the workplace.

Upgrade your communication, so your leadership is compelling and effective, and gets the best out of your team.

Because my skill-set spans the gamut from teaching via coaching to deep psychology, depending on what you need, I can

  • provide you with explicit training and instructions on the HOW of communicating effectively for clear leadership that brings about great teamwork for exceptional results

  • help you gain greater clarity on WHAT you want to convey, which needs to flow from what you know in your heart and in your bones, in order to be authentic and have the power of integrated action.
3. How do I know this is real?
The possibility of your life in business taking a turn for the better is real, because you want it.

Listen to the voices of the people who have coached with me about their experiences:


Exactly what I needed
Leadership coaching
"Coaching turned out to be exactly what I needed. At first, I thought it might be just a generic boring thing that you go through and at the end there is no tangible output, but it wasn't.

It was time well-spent. I actually got to discuss my "modus operandi" with Margarita and she worked through the details with me. She was very sharp in picking up on things that I didn't realise were pulling me back. She helped scrutinise my thought process, key decision points, and showed me what I should work on.

Now I know better where I am leading my career towards (leading being the keyword here), and have the 'tools' to prevent unnecessary stress."

Dr Spyros Skarvelis-Kazakos, Senior Lecturer in Power Electronics
Positively life-changing
Leadership / Executive Coaching
"The guidance I've received from Margarita has been positively life-changing. After each session I enjoy with her, I end up with another glorious nugget of self-realisation that has a profound impact on my mental wellbeing and my day-to-day life.

Ahead of my first taste of psycho-synthesis with Margarita, I was experiencing a constant tightness in the head and chest, stress and burn-out. All of that has almost completely disappeared."

Adam Bates, Founder and Director of Ambigo CIC

Read the full testimonial ↓
Tender, encouraging and professional
"So far I've had one session with Margarita, and to say that I found it hugely beneficial would be an understatement.

Her approach is tender, encouraging and professional.

I found the session thoroughly enjoyable and particularly enlightening.

If you, like me, are looking to truly discover and develop yourself, I'd strongly recommend engaging with Margarita. I can't wait for my next session!"

Vanessa De Oliveira, IMS Manager, Sussex Estates and Facilities
Using the right 'muscles' now
"Our conversations last week really made an impression on me. I am now being mindful about using the right 'muscles'. :)"

Fran Barnard, manager at the University of Sussex

Empowering
"Margarita enabled me to explore aspects of my self, which I may have ignored for some time or was not aware of. As a result of her guidance, I was able to give voice to them and identify their significance in my life to date and also identify where they were coming from - where the root of their influence lay in my deeper, hidden, less apparent self. This guidance through one's layers of consciousness is a revealing exercise as one makes sense of and unravels and is able to name the influences. This self-discovery leading to greater self-awareness is an empowering process, which enhanced my self worth.

Margarita was also excellent in her interactions with my twelve-year-old son who also participated in the sessions. She used a variety of techniques to draw him out and develop an understanding of his own self-worth and to explore and give voice to his own aspirations. He benefited from these sessions and always looked forward to participating in them."

Andrew Jackson, Lay Anglican Chaplain


You're a teacher in the best sense of the term
"You're a teacher, in the best sense of the term. :) And yes, I wish I had known you sooner, but it's okay, at least I do know you now and I'm very grateful for having met such a positive person, and for your presence in my life.

I have been feeling much better after the conversations we had when you were here: I am using your lovely notebook to write a sort of "new narrative" for myself, a much more positive one, and it helps me stay grounded in the present for longer and in a more serene way. I got some inspiration back to write as well! So again, thank you for everything."

Carlotta Papale, writer
Exactly what I needed
Leadership coaching
"Coaching with Margarita turned out to be exactly what I needed. At first, I thought it might be just a generic boring thing that you go through and at the end there is no tangible output, but it wasn't.

It was time well-spent. I actually got to discuss my "modus operandi" with Margarita and she worked through the details with me. She was very sharp in picking up on things that I didn't realise were pulling me back. She helped scrutinise my thought process, key decision points, and showed me what I should work on.

Now I know better where I am leading my career towards (leading being the keyword here), and have the 'tools' to prevent unnecessary stress."

Dr Spyros Skarvelis-Kazakos, Senior Lecturer in Power Electronics
Positively life-changing
Leadership / Executive Coaching
"The guidance I've received from Margarita has been positively life-changing. After each session I enjoy with her, I end up with another glorious nugget of self-realisation that has a profound impact on my mental wellbeing and my day-to-day life.

Ahead of my first taste of psycho-synthesis with Margarita, I was experiencing a constant tightness in the head and chest, stress and burn-out. All of that has almost completely disappeared."

Adam Bates, Founder and Director of Ambigo CIC

Read the full testimonial ↓
Tender, encouraging and professional
"So far I've had one session with Margarita, and to say that I found it hugely beneficial would be an understatement.

Her approach is tender, encouraging and professional.

I found the session thoroughly enjoyable and particularly enlightening.

If you, like me, are looking to truly discover and develop yourself, I'd strongly recommend engaging with Margarita. I can't wait for my next session!"

Vanessa De Oliveira, IMS Manager, Sussex Estates and Facilities
Using the right 'muscles' now
"Our conversations last week really made an impression on me. I am now being mindful about using the right 'muscles'. :)"

Fran Barnard, manager at University of Sussex

Empowering
"Margarita enabled me to explore aspects of my self, which I may have ignored for some time or was not aware of. As a result of her guidance, I was able to give voice to them and identify their significance in my life to date and also identify where they were coming from - where the root of their influence lay in my deeper, hidden, less apparent self. This guidance through one's layers of consciousness is a revealing exercise as one makes sense of and unravels and is able to name the influences. This self-discovery leading to greater self-awareness is an empowering process, which enhanced my self worth.

Margarita was also excellent in her interaction with my twelve-year-old son who also participated in the sessions. She used a variety of techniques to draw him out and develop an understanding of his own self-worth and to explore and give voice to his own aspirations. He benefited from these sessions and always looked forward to participating in them."

Andrew Jackson, Lay Anglican Chaplain


You're a teacher in the best sense of the term
"You're a teacher, in the best sense of the term. :) And yes, I wish I had known you sooner, but it's okay, at least I do know you now and I'm very grateful for having met such a positive person, and for your presence in my life.

I have been feeling much better after the conversations we had when you were here: I am using your lovely notebook to write a sort of "new narrative" for myself, a much more positive one, and it helps me stay grounded in the present for longer and in a more serene way. I got some inspiration back to write as well! So again, thank you for everything."

Carlotta Papale, writer
Adam Bates
Founder and Director of Ambigo CIC
Read Adam Bates' full testimonial...
"The guidance I've received from Margarita has been positively life-changing. After each session I enjoy with her, I end up with another glorious nugget of self-realisation that has a profound impact on my mental wellbeing and my day-to-day life.
Ahead of my first taste of psycho-synthesis with Margarita, I was experiencing a constant tightness in the head and chest, stress and burn-out. All of that has almost completely disappeared. I'm very confident it isn't just fleeting relief. That's because the depth of introspection she has navigated me through has astonishingly revealed some fundamental truths about my identity, behaviours, beliefs and desires. But, Margarita's magic doesn't end with that enlightening analysis.

She's enabled me to devise better ways of being. For example, we were able to pinpoint that I had a propensity to treat others with a degree of compassion I wasn't affording myself. Instead, I was continually punishing myself, which caused stress. Using role play, she helped me find a way for compassion to guide my Will (my principle desire/purpose) so I would treat myself in a more kind and rational manner rather than beating myself up when I did something 'wrong'.

My sessions with Margarita haven't been your typical talking therapies. Far from it. What also makes them unique and particularly effective is that she brings her own personality and life experiences to the fore to help me understand myself. This ranges from delving into etymology of language to dancing around the room performing basic tango. It's joyous!

I haven't felt this much at ease, self-confident and grounded in years.
Rather than cowering at the thought of taking on the future and its plethora of potential problems, I'm excited by the challenge of pursuing my Will and creating the future that is most *me*.

Needless to say, I urge anybody and everybody to take the step to psycho-synthesise with Margarita, no matter who you are and where you're at in your life. If you're confused, stuck, fearful about anything or just want to learn more about yourself, get in touch with her! It could significantly change your life, like it has mine."
4. What's been holding me back, that you can help me with?
Running a business is a very lonely path. The pressure of having all the answers yourself can get overwhelming, and the pressure of responsibilities is enormous, every single day.

It's hard to know how to be confident in your decisions, and to know what to focus your energies on.

There are times when you're so stressed out that your brain is not able to make rational decisions. There are so many directions to consider, and too many imponderables. You can get paralysed by choice under pressure. This leads to doubt and lack of confidence.

Working with me will help you find your Polar Star, the guiding thread that makes sense of the many variables you're working with, that boosts your motivation and clarity, so you know not just WHAT you want to do, but also WHY.
5. Why has it been so hard for me, as a person in business?
You tend to blame yourself any time things are going less than swimmingly – because it's always up to you to make everything work out!

No matter how hard you work, how strenuously you pull forward (you work plenty hard), there is still that lingering sense of "I'm still not good enough", and this feeling is like a tax you pay for all the effort you put in.

To top that, most other people don't understand you or your work. Very few understand your vision, what you're really about, what you're working so hard to accomplish.
6. Why do I need to take action on this now?
Put plainly, you need to move on this because your health may not hold out for much longer, the way things have been going. The stress has been robbing you of sleep, worrying symptoms have begun to show up. It seems like your body is saying No loud and clear.

Plus, the strain all this puts on your relationships outside of work is a big price to pay.

Life in general gets less enjoyable because of your work-related stress and overwhelm.

And, somewhere underneath all the straining, you intuit that it should be possible to feel good with the process, and you want that. Being the leader should be boosting you with positive energy, it shouldn't feel like 'just work'.

It's time to stop dreaming about how you could have fun while getting things done - it's time to make it your reality!
7. Why should I trust you?
(Seriously, you're the millionth person who's made a big promise)
Don't trust me – trust you.

I'm not asking you to trust me just now (although that will come). More importantly, I am challenging you to put your trust in yourself.

I have to put my trust in myself every day in turning up to do this work, given that every conversation with a client is travelling into the unknown, because everyone is unique and their situation and challenges are unique.

I trust myself to shape, improvise and invent what's needed for each moment, while drawing on the wealth experience behind me.

I will show you my trust when we speak, because I am willing to trust you – and I can help you to trust yourself more.
8. How does it work?
Generally, I commission to work with clients over a defined period of time, say 3 or 6 months.

We agree at the start whether we will speak weekly or fortnightly, and how long the sessions are to be.

I work with clients face-to-face, or over video link (I use a secure online consultation room to ensure confidentiality).

I am NOT offering you a pre-scripted system or programme here, you don't have time for that.

Instead, I am offering to work directly with the issues that are important to you, as they arise. This is a completely individual, custom-tailored approach, TO GET YOU THE LIFE IN BUSINESS THAT YOU KNOW IS POSSIBLE.
9. How can I get started?
We begin by speaking via video link at my secure online consultation room (at doxy.me).

This initial consultation is free of charge, and implies no obligation on either side.

It will allow us to map out what you want to change, and the goals you wish to pursue. It will also give us a chance to get a feel for whether we're a good fit together.
10. What do I have to lose?
You could lose your headaches.

Joking aside, if you hesitate to get help with this, you could lose out on the opportunity to re-tune your life in business to run along more enjoyable and coherent lines. Time is one thing you could lose, by hesitating too long.

Along the way, you're likely to lose the comfort of familiarity, the trap that catches us all at one time or another.

Committing to make the changes that will take you closer to a life you truly relish, you will have to leave behind some familiar (comfortably uncomfortable) habits that have outlived their usefulness.

But it won't be me deciding what you will leave behind and when - that's on your schedule, and the decision is always yours.
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ByHeart Coaching
Margarita Steinberg
Brighton, East Sussex
United Kingdom

+44(0)7717315078 byheart.coaching@gmail.com