Interview
with Margarita
Founder and Coach - Margarita Steinberg
Interview
with Margarita
Founder and Coach - Margarita Steinberg
Interview
with Margarita
Founder and Coach - Margarita Steinberg
How long have you been doing what you do and how did you become a relationships coach?
To answer this question, it's probably best that I share with you some defining moments along the path that has brought me to where I am today, coaching people like you on exactly what to do to set up for success and thriving in your dating adventure.

I grew up without a mother, so I had to do without a role model for femininity and for harmonious relations between men and women.

This led me to fall into some miserable relationships, and really feel at sea on how to negotiate the dating process.

One day, I decided that enough was enough and I was going to tackle this void in my life. I read everything I could get my hands on, about psychology and feminism and eroticism; I attended counselling; I dared myself to do things that felt scary. It took courage, and it took time.

I had to walk away from a miserable relationship, knowing that there was a chance that I might never meet a playmate and companion I could truly be intimate with.

I got into dancing, and eventually teaching, Argentine Tango. Unexpectedly, that turned out to be a great platform for learning about trust, the hallmark of intimacy – how to trust myself, how to build trust with another, what it takes and the strategies that support us when we're feeling vulnerable.

I did internet dating, and learnt a bunch more about the challenges of getting to know new people and the vulnerabilities that come along with that.

I am happy to tell you that all that work paid off. One day I found myself smiling at a wonderful man across the table from me and receiving his smile in return. We danced Tango, and we took time to get to know each other.

Even better than us becoming an item is the fact that this wasn't a flash-in-the-pan romance. We recently celebrated five years together, and we are still romantic about each other.

I wish I could send a 'message in a bottle' back to that 'me as a young woman', wondering if I would every find a man who could be a consort, a partner, a playmat, wondering if even one man was out there who could genuine like me for who I am. I would like her to see me today. I have the love and support of a wonderful man, who has been a blessing to every aspect of my life.

I would also like her to know that the day came when all those hard-won realisations, all the learning, came together for another purpose, beyond just taking care of me and my needs. They have become the bedrock for my work to help women get ready to date, leaving behind old misgivings and hasty conclusions, set their sights on a life of delight and joyful play.
Who are your clients and what would you expect of me?
I work with women just like you who have picked up some scars along the way and who need support to step out anew.

These are women who are

  • determined to dissolve the patterns that had kept them in a loop of misery or dissatisfaction

  • willing to keep an open mind and find within themselves get to know their partner better than perhaps ever before (the foundation of true intimacy)

  • ready to try something new and learn new relating skills and approaches

I have worked with women who wanted to draw a line under a relationship that was not working for them, set up to feel fine on their own, and set their sights on finding a guy who would truly satisfy their heart.

What's more, the coaching work also frequently helps my clients in other areas of life. People routinely find themselves performing more effectively at work, getting more done - just enjoying themselves more every day as they go. One client, Lauren, found she was creating such a gorgeous life for herself that her sense of urgency to find the next guy melted away entirely, so that she only now goes for something that truly beckons.
Who are your programmes NOT going to work for?
Please know that I'm very careful in choosing who I work with. I believe this serves the best interests of everyone. I see it as part of my responsibility to (gently) turn away people who aren't suited for my programmes and who won't get the results for which they would have signed up for (it wouldn't be fair to them.) The ByHeart Relationship Repair programmes are NOT for those who expect miracles without putting in the work.

This is why I won't work with (without exception) people who refuse to allow the possibility of new discoveries that could shed a new light on their situation with their partner.

Sometimes people are more devoted to protecting their views and opinions than they are committed to their partner; sometimes the lack of interest in new discoveries is a sign that the person has both their feet pointing out the door, in which case coaching is unlikely to help.
What if my situation around relationships is somewhat different?
I have worked with clients in a wide variety of situations:

  • singletons who were seeking a new relationship who needed to boost their confidence and were concerned to avoid the patterns they'd experienced before

  • people who needed support to exit an unsatisfying relationship and find their strength to be alone, before seeking a new relationship for the future they wished for themselves

  • people who kept getting involved in compromised liaisons which could not bring them satisfaction and harmony, who wanted to create a new self-image which would be compatible with a future relationship that would honour them fully

What my current and former clients have found hugely helpful is that I bring an extremely fresh perspective to their relating process and self-view, and guide them to apply resources they'd never heard of. Because of this, they can overcome their fears and negative expectations and are the ones who start creating rapport and harmony.
What exactly is the ByHeart Intimacy for Couples Programme™ and what does it include?
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Does this really work?
Yes! This approach to revitalising your relationship, over time and with your dedication, works consistently to create a deeper intimacy and commitment.
(See Client Testimonials)
Can I contact some of your former clients to see what it's like to work with you?
Yes, that's definitely a possibility.

Please mention that you'd like to do this in the contact form when you get in touch.

Obviously, I will need to contact my ex-clients to ask permission to share their details with you.

Similarly, if we should work together, I may ask the same favour of you, so that others can receive the reassurance of hearing about your experience.
What results can I expect?
You can expect to:

  1. Get support to affirm your commitment to each other, make sure your goals are aligned and commit to create a renewed intimacy together

  2. Discover the deeper causes of conflict, resolve tensions and get to know each other at a deeper level than ever before

  3. Learn simple techniques for building rapport that help you create the magical life together that you dreamed of when you first met
How quickly can I expect results?
Obviously, this depends on how long the conflict in your relationship has been building up and how much you put into the assignments that we give you.

That said, virtually all clients see results within the first few weeks in the form of new revelations, new levels of intimacy, a change in the 'climate' between you towards mutually supportive, an increase in rapport and trust, an overall sense of relaxation and an atmosphere of optimism for the future.
How can I do my part in seeing my relationship restored, in record time?
Do all of your assignments. Give priority to paying attention to your relationship, reflecting how important it is to you.

Keep the door open to discovering new aspects to the situation, both within yourself, in your partner, and in your wider context. Be as honest and courageous during the sessions and in the ensuing conversations with your partner as you can (you will be supported in this, so you won't be alone in tackling the hard stuff).

Understand that it's not a "quick fix", it's not magic (although the process might feel miraculous at times) and it takes time for you to plant all the seeds and for those seeds to grow into the fruit that you can enjoy.
Will my investment in this coaching programme be worth it for me?
Only you can really answer that question for you.

The clients who have re-created a marriage and a family with my help, the answer was 'Yes, it was worth every minute!'

I want you to stop reading for just one moment to ask yourself:

"What is keeping this relationship worth to me, and what would be the cost (not to mention the distress and upheaval) of a break-up ?"

Chances are, that amount will more than justify your investment in coaching.
What if I feel this might be right for me, but I still have a couple of additional questions. Can I call you?
I appreciate that this is a sensitive matter for you, and that it's fitting for you to make sure that everything feels right before you sign up for any of my programmes.

Yes, absolutely, if you have a couple of questions, just

➤ email byheart.coaching@gmail.com
or
➤ arrange an informal chat with me using my scheduling link

and I'll be happy to walk you through the different options, to see which one will be the very best for you.

I can't wait to see you succeed and am honoured to be the one to help you. Let's get going!
Margarita Steinberg
Teacher-Trainer-Mentor-Coach
Margarita is a qualified Psychosynthesis Leadership Coach, and brings to her work a kaleidoscope of skills and experience in:

  • teaching & training
  • creativity
  • counselling & practical psychology
  • languages
  • career guidance and Life Design
  • holistic health and spiritual practice
Margarita Steinberg
Teacher-Trainer-Mentor-Coach
Margarita is a qualified Psychosynthesis Leadership Coach, and brings to her work a kaleidoscope of skills and experience in:

  • teaching & training
  • creativity
  • counselling & practical psychology
  • languages
  • career guidance and Life Design
  • holistic health and spiritual practice
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Margarita Steinberg
Brighton, East Sussex
United Kingdom

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