Dating and relationships
What are you dreaming of?
Welcome
You are in the right place if...
Your situation
Where you are
You want to meet a wonderful person to grow intimate with
Your goals
You want to
  • really know what you're looking for

  • learn how to take the lead gently and follow gracefully, so it's fun for everyone

  • learn to value what you bring, so you know what they're going to appreciate about you
Your dream scenario
Where you'd like to be
  • you enjoy dating, and you know how to handle yourself

  • you are happy to form connections, without loosing yourself

  • you are developing a budding relationship that feels deeply exciting
It takes two to tango
The prospect of wearing your heart on your sleeves comes with a built-in vulnerability factor. Top that with cringe-generating memories of dating in the past, and it's no surprise that you have been sitting on the fence.

What would make the next round go better than the last?
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How it works
During our initial conversation, we will discuss your situation to establish what the dominant issues are and whether couple coaching is the best approach for helping you.

I generally see couples for a set of three appointments initially:

  • one session with each of you individually

  • followed by a joint session

Each session lasts up to 90 minutes.

These first three sessions will allow me to get under the skin of what's going on, and allow you to make new discoveries about yourself and your relationship. They will also give you a direct experience of the way I work.

We will discuss options for working together further at the end of the third session, if appopriate.

Fee for the initial set of three appointments: £360

Feel free to contact me with questions directly at byheart.coaching@gmail.com
The ByHeart approach
Autonomy + Connection = Harmony
I believe all relationships have to achieve a balance between honouring the autonomy of each individual and maintaining a vibrant connection between you. My work focuses on enhancing and balancing these two elements.
The effect has been astonishing

"It VERY quickly became clear that you have a unique gift for tapping into a part of both of us as individuals that neither of us had known or even cared to know. Then you introduced those parts of us to each other. Sounds simple (and a little bizarre, I know) but the effect has been astonishing.

I honestly can't imagine a better investment in our family's future. Our 14-year old son said the other day, "Aw, you guys are so cute!" and I realised that it's been a long time since he'd seen us that way."

Margaret P - Wife and Mother
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"At first my husband and I came to you because we were in crisis. There were danger signs I'd ignored or minimised over several months, but I had a feeling that this wasn't going to end well. When it inevitably blew up, we did what we'd done at other times of crisis in our 20-year marriage: we asked for help. In the past, the choice was stark: call a counsellor or call a lawyer. This time wasn't that kind of acute but it was one of a long string of mini-crises that were, frankly, wearing me down.

Coming to you was a leap into the unknown, because I wasn't at all familiar with your style or method of coaching. But it VERY quickly became clear that you have a unique gift for tapping into a part of both of us as individuals that neither of us had known or even cared to know. Then you introduced those parts of us to each other. Sounds simple (and a little bizarre, I know) but the effect has been astonishing.

The most prominent symptom of our marital difficulties has always been a tendency to snap at each other, to assume the worst motive in the other during any kind of conflict, large or small (especially small!). But now, having met (and cared for) the vulnerable versions of each other, we both find ourselves stopping before snapping, asking ourselves if it's really likely that the other is being THAT much of an asshole for no reason. Again, it sounds simple, but the effect – day-on-day – is a lightening of the whole household. And with each swept-aside assumption reinforcing the narrative that we've been seeing – projecting – the worst in each other for no damned reason whatsoever, it gets easier to see it clearly the next time.

It's been some months now since we had our last top-up session and, frankly, there's still work to be done. As with any important change which takes practice, once you start skipping a few opportunities to exercise your new skills, the old habits start creeping back in… But I never thought we could be on the other side of the issue: I had honestly thought we'd go on in casual misery for the rest of our lives, loving each other but not liking, trusting or respecting each other very much. Because of our sessions with you, I know now that the second half of that sentence is just a matter of practice and constructive work. Even knowing that lightens the load.

I think we had six sessions with you (astonishingly!) and we'll need a few more in the future, but I honestly can't imagine a better investment in our family's future. Our 14-year old son said the other day, "Aw, you guys are so cute!" and I realised that it's been a long time since he'd seen us that way."

It goes without saying that couple coaching is as effective for same-sex couples as for heterosexual partnerships.
It's not about re-capturing the love you had. It's not about going back.

It's about moving forward. It's about creating something new, exciting and vibrant for the now.
Is change really possible for you?
You may be feeling that you've tried everything, and it may be hard to imagine that something can truly make a lasting difference.

To reassure you that profound change is possible, watch this clip of Tony Robbins prompting a husband contemplating separation to re-consider how he approaches his marriage.

Obviously, every coach has their own style, their unique flavour of working, so this clip showcases Tony's style, rather than mine. That said, all of the questions Tony uses here make sense to me and result in a profound, joyous renewal of a marriage.
Tony Robbins Saves A Marriage - 8 Minutes
There may be more to discover in your relationship than you might imagine
None of us are born with a full set of instructions for how to create fulfilling relationships...

but we can all learn!
Profound positive change is possible for you.
Help with untangling your wings
It is striking to think that even swans, the emblem for devoted and harmonious partnerships, can get into a tangled mess between two!

Watch the tender care that the people on the shore in this clip from real life devote to tracing back the confusion of limbs, till they get to the points where the tangles had got tight. They then help ease out the tangles and restore the swans to their majestic freedom.

I imagine it took a lot of trust for the swans to paddle towards the shore to allow human help to reach them, but sometimes we all have to overcome our natural reticence and let help in.
Tangled swans ask for a little help
Two tangled swans in Russia realize they're not getting out of their mess without a little help. Two kind passer-bys stop to untangle their wings.
Strong relationships are invaluable.
75 years of research on happiness
What keeps us happy and healthy as we go through life? If you think it's fame and money, you're not alone – but, according to psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, you're mistaken. As the director of a 75-year-old study on adult development, Waldinger has unprecedented access to data on true happiness and satisfaction.

The clearest message from this 75-years-long study on happiness: "Good relationships keep us happier and healthier, period."

Robert Waldinger, the fourth Director of the study, adds: "This is wisdom that's as old as the hills. Why is it so hard to get and so easy to ignore? Well, we're human. What we'd really like is a quick fix, something we can get, that will make our lives good and keep them that way. [Instead], relationships are messy and complicated, and the hard work of tending to family and friends is not sexy or glamorous. It's also life-long, it never ends."
What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | Robert Waldinger
None of us are born with a full set of instructions on creating satisfying relationships.
GIVE ME A CALL
Margarita Steinberg
Call: +44 (0)7717-315-078
Email: byheart.coaching@gmail.com

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Margarita Steinberg
Teacher-Trainer-Mentor-Coach
Margarita is a qualified Psychosynthesis Leadership Coach, and brings to her work a kaleidoscope of skills and experience in:

  • teaching & training
  • creativity
  • counselling & practical psychology
  • languages
  • career guidance and Life Design
  • holistic health and spiritual practice

Meet Margarita →
Margarita Steinberg
Teacher-Trainer-Mentor-Coach
Margarita is a qualified Psychosynthesis Leadership Coach, and brings to her work a kaleidoscope of skills and experience in:

  • teaching & training
  • creativity
  • counselling & practical psychology
  • languages
  • career guidance and Life Design
  • holistic health and spiritual practice

Meet Margarita →
client stories
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