Testimonials
Couples I've helped - in their own words
Couples I've helped - in their own words
You'll notice some of these have been shortened for the sake of brevity.
Full-length testimonials are published further down this page.
The sea-change in our relationship is so profound
Couple coaching
"I came to Margarita as a skeptic. As is the case for most of us, for much of my life I've been embroiled in behavioral issues that seemed both repetitive and deeply entrenched, a loop unchanged, and more importantly, unchangeable...

Jared Hendrickson - Father, Artist, Teacher, Rock Star

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The effect has been astonishing
Couple coaching
"It VERY quickly became clear that you have a unique gift for tapping into a part of both of us as individuals that neither of us had known or even cared to know. Then you introduced those parts of us to each other. Sounds simple (and a little bizarre, I know) but the effect has been astonishing.

I honestly can't imagine a better investment in our family's future. Our 14-year old son said the other day, "Aw, you guys are so cute!" and I realised that it's been a long time since he'd seen us that way."

Margaret P - Wife and Mother

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You're a teacher in the best sense of the term
"You're a teacher, in the best sense of the term. :) And yes, I wish I had known you sooner, but it's okay, at least I do know you now and I'm very grateful for having met such a positive person, and for your presence in my life.

I have been feeling much better after the conversations we had when you were here: I am using your lovely notebook to write a sort of "new narrative" for myself, a much more positive one, and it helps me stay grounded in the present for longer and in a more serene way. I got some inspiration back to write as well! So again, thank you for everything."

Carlotta Papale, writer
Kind, caring person
"A kind, caring person, who glows from the inside, Margarita will help you become the best version of yourself through simple exercises. She will be an extremely helpful guide, always wishing the best for people and helping them realise their dream life and potential."

Alexander Fox, dancer
The sea-change in our relationship is so profound
Couple coaching
"I came to Margarita as a skeptic. As is the case for most of us, for much of my life I've been embroiled in behavioral issues that seemed both repetitive and deeply entrenched, a loop unchanged, and more importantly, unchangeable...

Jared Hendrickson - Father, Artist, Teacher, Rock Star

Read the full testimonial ↓
The effect has been astonishing
Couple coaching
"It VERY quickly became clear that you have a unique gift for tapping into a part of both of us as individuals that neither of us had known or even cared to know. Then you introduced those parts of us to each other. Sounds simple (and a little bizarre, I know) but the effect has been astonishing.

I honestly can't imagine a better investment in our family's future. Our 14-year old son said the other day, "Aw, you guys are so cute!" and I realised that it's been a long time since he'd seen us that way."

Margaret P - Wife and Mother

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You're a teacher in the best sense of the term
"You're a teacher, in the best sense of the term. :) And yes, I wish I had known you sooner, but it's okay, at least I do know you now and I'm very grateful for having met such a positive person, and for your presence in my life.

I have been feeling much better after the conversations we had when you were here: I am using your lovely notebook to write a sort of "new narrative" for myself, a much more positive one, and it helps me stay grounded in the present for longer and in a more serene way. I got some inspiration back to write as well! So again, thank you for everything."

Carlotta Papale, writer
Kind, caring person
"A kind, caring person, who glows from the inside, Margarita will help you become the best version of yourself through simple exercises. She will be an extremely helpful guide, always wishing the best for people and helping them realise their dream life and potential."

Alexander Fox, dancer
Full-length testimonials
The sea-change in our relationship is so profound

"The work we've done with you is incredibly valuable. [Even while other things are proving challenging], all of the work that M and I have done with you seems to remain as strong and effective with us as ever.

Not sure how I can thank you enough."

Jared Hendrickson
Father, Artist, Teacher, Rock Star
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"I came to Margarita as a skeptic. As is the case for most of us, for much of my life I've been embroiled in behavioral issues that seemed both repetitive and deeply entrenched, a loop unchanged, and more importantly, unchangeable.

I'd been through Freudian, Jungian and other approaches to therapy on and off for years, and though I became adept at telling "my story", I never actually gained any real insight into why I did the things I did or how to change them, never found solace with any of the talk therapy approaches I'd tried. As one therapist said at one point, I was being behaved by my emotions, and though I knew I wanted to find new coping mechanisms, I was at a loss as to know how I could move forward.

Without encumbering my recommendation with details of how I came under Margarita's wing, suffice it to say that because of issues that my wife and I have been dealing with in our marriage, I contacted Margarita in search of help. I wasn't convinced that there was an answer in therapy that I hadn't heard already, but I went.

From the start, Margarita's approach was clearly different. Though the exact alchemy of how she does what she does is hard to explain, the results have been astounding. Her approach is profoundly compassionate, sometimes engaging in role play, sometimes asking me to cast back to deeper memories than I knew existed. She looks at each issue both directly and indirectly, illuminating a path with both insightful ease and grace. She's clearly extremely experienced yet she carries that knowledge lightly, with a sense of wonder and pleasure. She clearly enjoys the process of discovery as much as my wife and I do and each session is challenging yet exciting, filled with utterly unexpected treasures knotted up inside the tangled nests of our lives.

Perhaps most crucially though, throughout every session and at every turn, I felt seen, understood and respected. Margarita challenged me to push further, but I was held in a safe place where it was possible to explore some of the thorniest issues of my past. Without that sense of unequivocal safety, there's no chance that one would ever want to journey very far.

My wife and I walk out of Margarita's sessions happier, more patient and somehow more balanced, able to work through our issues together more effectively, but most importantly, compassionately. We see each other anew, and after twenty years that's a challenge!

I described Margarita's approach to therapy as alchemical. There are official names for each approach and technique she uses, but the magic of it all is that you never see that because you're too involved in the journey, a journey that's empowering and transformational and incredibly effective.

There's much work to do, but I don't feel like I'm being "behaved by my emotions" any more which is amazing! I can actually see the path for the first time in my life, and that only came from working with Margarita who has helped make transformational change in my (our) life. I can not recommend her highly enough."
The effect has been astonishing

"It VERY quickly became clear that you have a unique gift for tapping into a part of both of us as individuals that neither of us had known or even cared to know. Then you introduced those parts of us to each other. Sounds simple (and a little bizarre, I know) but the effect has been astonishing.

I honestly can't imagine a better investment in our family's future. Our 14-year old son said the other day, "Aw, you guys are so cute!" and I realised that it's been a long time since he'd seen us that way."

Margaret P - Wife and Mother
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"At first my husband and I came to you because we were in crisis. There were danger signs I'd ignored or minimised over several months, but I had a feeling that this wasn't going to end well. When it inevitably blew up, we did what we'd done at other times of crisis in our 20-year marriage: we asked for help. In the past, the choice was stark: call a counsellor or call a lawyer. This time wasn't that kind of acute but it was one of a long string of mini-crises that were, frankly, wearing me down.

Coming to you was a leap into the unknown, because I wasn't at all familiar with your style or method of coaching. But it VERY quickly became clear that you have a unique gift for tapping into a part of both of us as individuals that neither of us had known or even cared to know. Then you introduced those parts of us to each other. Sounds simple (and a little bizarre, I know) but the effect has been astonishing.

The most prominent symptom of our marital difficulties has always been a tendency to snap at each other, to assume the worst motive in the other during any kind of conflict, large or small (especially small!). But now, having met (and cared for) the vulnerable versions of each other, we both find ourselves stopping before snapping, asking ourselves if it's really likely that the other is being THAT much of an asshole for no reason. Again, it sounds simple, but the effect – day-on-day – is a lightening of the whole household. And with each swept-aside assumption reinforcing the narrative that we've been seeing – projecting – the worst in each other for no damned reason whatsoever, it gets easier to see it clearly the next time.

It's been some months now since we had our last top-up session and, frankly, there's still work to be done. As with any important change which takes practice, once you start skipping a few opportunities to exercise your new skills, the old habits start creeping back in… But I never thought we could be on the other side of the issue: I had honestly thought we'd go on in casual misery for the rest of our lives, loving each other but not liking, trusting or respecting each other very much. Because of our sessions with you, I know now that the second half of that sentence is just a matter of practice and constructive work. Even knowing that lightens the load.

I think we had six sessions with you (astonishingly!) and we'll need a few more in the future, but I honestly can't imagine a better investment in our family's future. Our 14-year old son said the other day, "Aw, you guys are so cute!" and I realised that it's been a long time since he'd seen us that way."
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United Kingdom

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