Couples
Revitalise your relationship
It takes two to tango
You still both want to be together. Love and affection are still in the mix, although there are times when frustration overshadows them.

How is it that two people can care for each other and yet find it so hard to rub along well and enjoy each other's company?

More effort does not necessary result in resolving the knots. It takes the right kind of effort. There is an ancient Sufi story to illustrate this point: if you were to tie two birds together, there would be twice as much flapping of wings but probably not twice as much soaring in flight.

That's where couple coaching comes in. With skilful guidance, you can discover the hidden triggers that are causing tension and friction. Once these are revealed, you can make adjustments that harmonise your interactions, upgrade your 'dance' and create the space for enjoying the ride together.
It takes two to tango (Part 2)
Someone might be 'in the wrong' in your current situation. One of you might well feel that the other is at fault and needs to improve their game. You might both be feeling aggrieved.

Either way, upgrading your relating needs to involve you both. Creating a beautiful partnership is not a drop-off service.

With this in mind, I generally work with both partners. My experience demonstrates that this creates the best chance for shaping a beautiful dance between the two of you.
Where there's a will, there is a way.
Love, enhanced by insight, can work miracles!
It's not about re-capturing the love you had. It's not about going back.

It's about moving forward. It's about creating something new, exciting and vibrant for the now.
The sea-change in our relationship is so profound

"The work we've done with you is incredibly valuable. [Even while other things are proving challenging], all of the work that M and I have done with you seems to remain as strong and effective with us as ever.

Not sure how I can thank you enough."

Jared Hendrickson
Father, Artist, Teacher, Rock Star
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"I came to Margarita as a skeptic. As is the case for most of us, for much of my life I've been embroiled in behavioral issues that seemed both repetitive and deeply entrenched, a loop unchanged, and more importantly, unchangeable...

I'd been through Freudian, Jungian and other approaches to therapy on and off for years, and though I became adept at telling "my story", I never actually gained any real insight into why I did the things I did or how to change them, never found solace with any of the talk therapy approaches I'd tried. As one therapist said at one point, I was being behaved by my emotions, and though I knew I wanted to find new coping mechanisms, I was at a loss as to know how I could move forward.

Without encumbering my recommendation with details of how I came under Margarita's wing, suffice it to say that because of issues that my wife and I have been dealing with in our marriage, I contacted Margarita in search of help. I wasn't convinced that there was an answer in therapy that I hadn't heard already, but I went.

From the start, Margarita's approach was clearly different. Though the exact alchemy of how she does what she does is hard to explain, the results have been astounding. Her approach is profoundly compassionate, sometimes engaging in role play, sometimes asking me to cast back to deeper memories than I knew existed. She looks at each issue both directly and indirectly, illuminating a path with both insightful ease and grace. She's clearly extremely experienced yet she carries that knowledge lightly, with a sense of wonder and pleasure. She clearly enjoys the process of discovery as much as my wife and I do and each session is challenging yet exciting, filled with utterly unexpected treasures knotted up inside the tangled nests of our lives.

Perhaps most crucially though, throughout every session and at every turn, I felt seen, understood and respected. Margarita challenged me to push further, but I was held in a safe place where it was possible to explore some of the thorniest issues of my past. Without that sense of unequivocal safety, there's no chance that one would ever want to journey very far.

My wife and I walk out of Margarita's sessions happier, more patient and somehow more balanced, able to work through our issues together more effectively, but most importantly, compassionately. We see each other anew, and after twenty years that's a challenge!

I described Margarita's approach to therapy as alchemical. There are official names for each approach and technique she uses, but the magic of it all is that you never see that because you're too involved in the journey, a journey that's empowering and transformational and incredibly effective.

There's much work to do, but I don't feel like I'm being "behaved by my emotions" any more which is amazing! I can actually see the path for the first time in my life, and that only came from working with Margarita who has helped make transformational change in my (our) life. I can not recommend her highly enough."
Couple coaching is as effective for same-sex couples as for heterosexuals.


The ByHeart approach
I believe all relationships have to achieve a balance between honouring the autonomy of each individual and maintaining a vibrant connection between you. My work focuses on enhancing and balancing these two elements.

Find out if it's right for you.
How it works
In the discovery call, we will discuss your situation in sufficient detail to establish what the dominant issues are and whether couples coaching is the best approach for helping you.

I generally see couples for a set of three appointments initially: one with each partner individually, followed by a joint session. Each session lasts up to 90 minutes.

This in-depth exploration allows me to get under the skin of what's going on, and sets out the scope of the work ahead.

We will discuss options for working further together at the end of the third session.

Fee for the initial set of three appointments: £360

Feel free to contact me with questions directly at byheart.coaching@gmail.com
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Margarita Steinberg
Call: +44 (0)7717-315-078
Email: byheart.coaching@gmail.com

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Margarita Steinberg
Teacher-Trainer-Mentor-Coach
Margarita is a qualified Psychosynthesis Leadership Coach, and brings to her work a kaleidoscope of skills and experience: in teaching & training, creativity, counselling, psychology, language, career guidance and Life Design, and holistic health and spiritual practice.

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Margarita Steinberg
Teacher-Trainer-Mentor-Coach
Margarita is a qualified Psychosynthesis Leadership Coach, and brings to her work a kaleidoscope of skills and experience: in teaching & training, creativity, counselling, psychology, language, career guidance and Life Design, and holistic health and spiritual practice.

Meet Margarita →
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