Trust makes you feel relaxed and secure - yet it is not always easy to achieve.
What, or whom, do you feel you can trust?
All good things are brought to you by people.
The Barefoot Doctor, aka Stephen Russell
Before we begin, I'd like to invite you to pause for 5 seconds, and check:
over the last week, were there any offers of assistance or pointers on what could take you towards what you want that you swiftly dismissed because such good fortune would be too good to be true, or maybe because accepting such generosity would be unseemly?
You recognise the opportunity after the event. D'oh! This is the warm-up phase. Every time you recognise an opportunity in retrospect, congratulate yourself, because you're getting better at spotting them.
You stop yourself mid-sentence, because you're just heard yourself turning down something wonderful / helpful.
You hear yourself *about* to turn down something helpful / wonderful, and replace what you were about to say with your new default welcome: 'Yes, thank you'.
You start to see opportunities coming (rather than once they begin to slip away) and are ready to embrace them.
The new default has taken root, and it's now normal for you to embrace kindness and generosity flowing towards you. You genuinely enjoy and appreciate it as the regular way that things happen in your world.
Three stages of changing a habit
(I've included a pre- and a post- state, totalling five stages in all)
In writing this, I am thinking of you, reading these words.
May the future bestow wonderful surprises on you at regular intervals.
Play me a fantasy
Play me a fantasy. What is yours?
Is it to: 'Speak in front of a gathering and receive applause' - Imagine it.
'Have a mentor guide my first tentative steps into a new endeavour' - Wish for it.
'Tell a secret I've been harbouring so it's no longer a burden' - Hear your wish, and permit it to be possible.
If you give either of these a go, I'd love to hear how it goes for you.
If you like the sound of using your imagination to tap into your greater potental, I'd be happy to help.
I am a Leadership Coach with a specialism in Psychosynthesis psychology. I am the founder of ByHeart Coaching, and this blog grows out of my coaching work. I am also a qualified and experienced teacher, and draw on training in counselling skills.
I work with individuals and couples, as private clients; I also work with organisations through running leadership coaching programmes and group workshops.
PUBLICATIONS A chapter on my innovative learning format using embodied learning appears in the book 'Disrupting traditional pedagogy: Active Learning in Practice' published by University of Sussex Press in June 2019.
In preparation: my first book 'One step at a time: how to thrive in a dynamic world'