Is there some area of life where you find it hard to receive?
What would count as "too-good-to-be-true" in your world?
What makes it so hard to receive sometimes?
One answer is: We haven't imagined it yet. If you can see it, you can receive it.
What about the things that we, in our young grief, stashed away deep, wrapped in our disappointment? Now it's only the disappointment that we can see. Receiving has become preposterous, near-unthinkable.
Dear 'Too-good-to-be-true', how we long for you!
To unwrap that which we long to receive, we would have to touch the liquid pain of the disappointment we'd stashed away.
How might that go? Maybe something like this:
I grant myself the pain of that disappointment now as part of my richness.
In knowing my disappointment, I receive more of myself - and more of humankind. I can be with people in their disappointment; I no longer have to wince away from their pain because it reminds me too vividly of mine.
In making space for my disappointment, I am re-discovering what I had wanted to receive.
I can now see disappointment *and* receiving. I can conceive of a more generous universe than the one I'd been dreaming inside me, a whole world within encapsulated in disappointment.
In a more generous universe, I can receive.
Receiving enough, I can tolerate moments of frustration. I can acknowledge them without despairing.
Now for the imagining part. If you can see it, you can receive it.
What do you long for?
Let's go there, with 'SO GOOD YET TRUE' on our banner. :)
Play me a fantasy
Play me a fantasy. What is yours?
Is it to: 'Speak in front of a gathering and receive applause' - Imagine it.
'Have a mentor guide my first tentative steps into a new endeavour' - Wish for it.
'Tell a secret I've been harbouring so it's no longer a burden' - Hear your wish, and permit it to be possible.
Welcome to a more generous universe.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Margarita Steinberg
I am a Leadership Coach with a specialism in Psychosynthesis psychology. I am the founder of ByHeart Coaching, and this blog grows out of my coaching work. I am also a qualified and experienced teacher, and draw on training in counselling skills.
I work with individuals and couples, as private clients; I also work with organisations through running leadership coaching programmes and group workshops.
PUBLICATIONS A chapter on my innovative learning format using embodied learning appears in the book 'Disrupting traditional pedagogy: Active Learning in Practice' published by University of Sussex Press in June 2019.
In preparation: my first book 'One step at a time: how to thrive in a dynamic world'